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Dear Lobdell

korraful:

In RHatO, can you PLEASE not make people of color (especially your Asians and African Americans) either:

A. Exotic Wise Old Healers
B. Cowardly Victims
C. Villains.

Can we get one POC who’s a good-ish character, just one pretty please. Like all the villains we have seen so far are (Susie (Chinese), African American police woman, Untitled (Tibetian-esque?), That Talon guy (Japanese-ish), Hong Kong triads, that green monster guy (African American) the Middle Eastern terrorists) the wise old healer with the Hello Kitty thing is Tibetian-looking. Oh and that Nezha-Avatar Aang-esque guy with the memories. And is it just me or does she look like the tree from Pocahontas. She doesn’t seem like a CHARACTER at all, but rather that Magical Asian. And the other Asians we see is that girl who’s village was saved by Jaybird. Who was afraid to fly near the storm.  

And there is quite a lot of Asianic influences in this work. Such as the dragons, Jay’s twin blades (tanto ??? )  the whole Count of Owls, the Hong Kong triads and the lily motifs. Just please. I get that it’s super pretty but the exotification of Asian culture is really, fucking pissing me off. If we don’t see any actual Asians. Who y’know…aren’t evil. 

It’s rather imperialist, we’ll take your dragons, your roofs, your culture, your city and we’ll put this on display and oh, we’ll also show your people but your people are bad guys (and our white main character has to protect the white villain who is BETTER THAN YOU)

While the heroes are either white or not human. 

caffeinatedfeminist:

Here’s a friendly reminder:

-You cannot be sexist toward men. Sexism is based on a system of oppression. You CAN be discriminatory, rude, inconsiderate, and/or prejudiced against men but you CANNOT be sexist toward them.

-You cannot be racist towards white people. Racism is based on a system of oppression. You CAN be discriminatory, rude, inconsiderate, and/or prejudiced against white people but you CANNOT be racist toward them.

This is not difficult.

justjasper:

if you want an example of what kind of white person you shouldn’t be this blog might help　

Okay so I’m going through this blog and I have to laugh because the alternative is crying at how people simply hate not being jerks to POC. Wow. There are some backwards folk on tumblr and a whole bunch of them are on that blog.

schizoauthoress:

The Death Eaters are the obvious parallel to racism.

Arthur Weasley is the more insidious one.

this is a post about tone policing.

strugglingtobeheard:

cosmicrubric:

youarenotyou:

I’ve been seeing an awful lot of tone policing on my dash lately. It seems a lot of people don’t really understand why someone would respond aggressively or angrily, or otherwise emotionally, to having something really fucked up/hurtful/oppressive said to them. Or, they think it’s counterproductive to respond in that way.

First off, the reason that people may respond in a “harsh” manner to oppression: Living in a world that reminds you daily of your lesser worth as a human being can make a person very tired and emotional. When someone says something oppressive — that can be a racist slur, an ableist stereotype, a misogynist dismissal, an invalidation of identity/experiences, being asked invasive and entitled questions, and so on – it feels like being slapped in the face, to the person on the receiving end. The automatic response is emotion and pain. It’s quite exhausting and difficult to restrain the resulting anger. And, frankly, it’s cruel and ridiculous to expect a person to be calm and polite in response to an act of oppression. Marginalized people often do not have the luxury of emotionally distancing themselves from discussions on their rights and experiences. 

Second, tone policing is the ultimate derailing tactic. When you tone police, you automatically shift the focus of the conversation away from what you or someone else did that was wrong, and onto the other person and their reaction. Tone policing is a way of not taking responsibility for fucking up, and it dismisses the other person’s position by framing it as being emotional and therefore irrational. The conflation of emotionality with irrationality is often used to silence women and people who are read as women, when they are trying to speak about anything at all. It’s also used against all marginalized people when they attempt to speak about their very personal experiences with oppression. But being emotional does not make one’s points any less valid. It’s also important to note that, by tone policing, you not only refuse to examine your own oppressive behavior, but you also can blame that on the other person, because they were not “nice enough” to be listened to or taken seriously.

Third, the implications: Tone policing assumes that the oppressive act is not an act of aggression, when it very much is. The person who was oppressed by the action, suddenly is no longer a victim, but is “victimizing” the other person by calling them out. Now, I’m not saying it’s okay to be abusive, or oppressive in response to a person who fucks up. But anger is valid. Anger is valid, anger is important, anger brings social change, anger makes people listen, anger is threatening, and anger is passion. Anger is NOT counterproductive; being “nice” is counterproductive. Nobody was ever given rights by politely asking for them. Politeness is nothing but a set of behavioral expectations that is enforced upon marginalized people.

If you see someone who is angry and upset about something that was said or done to them, don’t tell them they should be nicer. Instead: Recognize their emotions as valid. Recognize that their emotional state is an indication that something extremely harmful was done to them, whether it was by you, or someone else. Work to understand why the action was oppressive. Take all that energy that you’re wasting being so concerned with how people are responding to their own oppression, and channel it into fighting oppression.  

Relevant because I JUST had this argument on facebook with an acquaintance and of course the chick who I called out in the first place liked the comment. Ugh.

relevant because i was just told to stop being such an angry black woman.

This post is always relevant to me/my blog.

I can police my own tone. I can figure out when I’m about to throttle someone and when I take something too far. And trust me, it’s not where someone else thinks I’m being “too angry” because I go somewhere before I get to that point and do something else. People haven’t seen “too angry” yet from me and chances are, they never will.

When you tell someone that they should calm down about something that angers them or that you’re sorry they’re upset, but you think they should calm down and be nicer to the other person all you’re doing is saying that their pain doesn’t matter to you as much as it should. Trust me, you may think you’re doing a good thing by patting backs across the internet and telling people to calm down or be nicer to the people that perpetuate negative -isms and get away with it, but no. No you’re not.

If the person you’re defending has the right to make me feel like shit (whether or not that was their intention), then I sure as hell have the right to get mad about it. To tell everyone that I can why the person is a big bag of dicks. Because they’re hurting me not you and once someone hurts my feelings/makes me go through anxiety attacks, I don’t really care about hurting their feelings unless we were friends and even then, I have a limit to the patronizing bullshit I’ll put up with from people that are supposed to be my friends.

Everyone else puts their wellbeing above other peoples’ own when they’re making jokes and being an asshole, but when people in minority groups do it because no one else will call out someone for being an awful human being, it’s called being “too angry”…

Tl;DR? Just because you don’t see why certain forms of oppression piss me the hell off to the point where I snap and call people out on tumblr, that doesn’t mean that you can try and police my tone. It’s not your right and it’s really none of your business.